"You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible." ~ Deepak Chopra Good morning, friend. I write to you from the downhill side of an amazing week. I'm not coasting, exactly, but it's fair to say that I'm drafting, pulled forward euphorically and almost effortlessly by an achievement that I'm eager to share and celebrate. An achievement that originally felt daunting; an ...
Midlife Blog
Precocious Midlife Crisis
"Everybody should have a midlife crisis! I mean, why wouldn’t you have a midlife crisis? My first midlife crisis was when I was like nine-and-a-half." ~ Jay Wexler (Source: The Boston Globe) I snipped this from an interview with Jay Wexler about his novel, Tuttle in the Balance. His lighthearted riff on midlife crises is woven into a dismissive response to a suggestion that Ed Tuttle, his law ...
Rebound
I'm ready to rebound from the midlife dip. In fact, lately I've been feeling like the rollercoaster is chugging back uphill, and here's some evidence that I'm not just waxing Pollyanna for a change. Women get the short end of the stick when it comes to midlife crises. Men get new cars and younger wives and become more distinguished with age; we [women] get depression, weight gain, and an overall ...
39: Prime Time for a Midlife Crisis?
Debate proliferates about when exactly to "prime time for a midlife crisis" begins. Thirty five? Forty? Forty five? Fifty? Fifty five? I remember my mother dismissing my precocious self-references to midlife when I turned 39. That was back at the beginning of this journey, back when I was still feeling a perplexed, sideswiped, and maybe even slightly pissed off about the aging hiccup. It was ...
Midlife Quest
I've talked about a midlife reboot, proclaimed a midlife manifesto or three, and meditated on middle age long enough to grok the importance of a midlife leap rather than a midlife crisis. More like leaps versus crises... But the adventure, one I originally anticipated being a tidy yearlong reflection (ergo 40x41), has proven to be far lengthier and more complex than I imagined. I'm slowly coming ...
Grief, Love and Memento Mori
Excuse, if you would, the slightly morbid tenor of today's post about grief and love and memento mori. Or skip it! But if you stay and read you just may feel the rush of life and enthusiasm that I'm experiencing. An intriguing and new-to-me connection has been made — an embrace of love and memento mori — that is especially resonant now as I struggle with the terribly premature loss of a friend, a ...